I love social media, and waste countless hours on it but I can't seem to grow my skin thick enough for the whole "I'm going to follow/friend you, but then someday I'm going to pull the rug out from under you and unfollow/unfriend you and you will never know why!" And what really bothers me about that is that I CARE. I would say that if I saw about half the people on my Facebook friend list in the grocery store or somewhere out in the real world, I would hide so they didn't see me and then I wouldn't be forced to have a stop-and-chat. (thank you, Larry David, for that term) I know, I'm not a nice person. Or perhaps I'm just kind of shy? No, I'm not shy. Part of the reason is that I hate confrontation. Even fake confrontation. Especially fake confrontation, like so:
Facebook friend I don't really consider a real friend but keep on my friend list because the drama in her life provides me with endless entertainment: (FFIDRCF): Hey Girl! Where've you been hiding?
Me: Oh you know, I've been busy.
FFIDRCF: Ha ha! We're ALL busy! What have you been "busy" doing?
Me: I've been busy with the kids...
FFIDRCF: You only have two kids! How busy could you be? (jovial, jokey-type laughter)
Me: ..... I think I just got my period. Gotta go!
FFIDRCF: Call me! We have to get together!
Me: ... (under my breath)... I'd rather be murdered in my bed.
I guess I am what you might call an introvert and social media fits that so perfectly. I watched a show last night about some crazy family that has a thousand kids and how great it is because "you never have to be alone!" and I couldn't think of anything worse. But I love knowing what is going on in people's lives so lurking on Facebook/Twitter/blogs is perfect to satisfy my social needs (that and of course, you know, having a husband and kids.)
I have recently been trying to figure out Twitter, Stumble and Reddit. Twitter seems to be for people who like to read mini-blogs, but not necessarily write mini-blogs. Some of the people on Twitter are hilarious, but I only actually know about three of my followers/people I follow. When I get an email that says I have a new follower on Twitter I get excited and check them out and nine times out of ten it's a woman from the porn industry that follows eight million people in the hopes that they will follow her and read her very unsexy porno tweets. So, it's entertaining, but like I say, I don't know those people. I read stuff on Stumble and Reddit, but haven't totally figured it out yet.
Facebook is great because I can pick my friends. And if a friend gets annoying in their status updates, I can keep them as a friend, but hide them so I don't have to read their millions of dramatic updates about how their ex-husband is a jerk.
It's all so shallow isn't it? It's perfect for me. Except when I get unfollowed/unfriended. I hate that. I took the follower option off the blog because I was getting obsessed with it and discouraged that more people weren't pushing the "follow" button. That eliminated a lot of anxiety.
What do you like about social media? How do you deal with getting dumped?