He stayed home and raised his kids. Yeah, that's right. There was a show all about how wonderful and unique and noble this guy is because he took on the unbelievably difficult job of care of his own offspring. I was driving, and frothing at the mouth and was digging out my phone to call in to the show and then the show ended and now my only outlet is to write about it on this blog. When a woman stays home and takes care of her own kids BIG DEAL. If anything there are hints that she's selfish because she isn't contributing to the financial well-being of her family because really, shouldn't the woman of the new millennium really be expected to bring home at least half the money AND take care of her kids and family and house? Not only did this man on the radio not express any guilty feelings for not possibly doing enough for the family, but he got on the radio and bragged that he provided the primary care for his own children!
In this same vein, a friend on Facebook posted an article that some idiot woman wrote in to an advice column to ask about how come her friends with kids always say they are so busy. What are they doing all day? How hard is it to take care of a couple of kids? AAAAAAGGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!! Here it is:
I love the reply, btw. But why is it that when a woman does a job, any job except maybe race-car driver, the general consensus (from both males and females) is "Eh, so what. Couldn't she possibly do a little more?" But when a man does it he brags about it and pats himself on the back and gets paid more money than his female counterparts. Yeah, women still only make about 80 percent of what men make for doing the same job. Maybe it's because men know how to toot their own horns better than women. I don't know, but it really bothers me. The thing is, I stayed at home with my kids when they were small and I totally agree with the braggart on the radio that it IS a hard job, but I would NEVER go on a radio show and brag that I decided to do a job that millions and millions of other people do every day, and act like I invented the idea of providing primary care of my own children. And the fact that he got a national platform to brag about doing something that women have traditionally done for thousands of years, what the hell?
You know, I don't know why this makes me soooo mad. I only heard about five minutes of the show so maybe the guy really did do something phenomenal. Just a minute, I'm going to look it up....
Okay, I looked up yesterday's show and the guy is named Pat Byrnes and he stays at home with his daughters and he writes a cartoon about being "Captain Dad." The cartoon is kind of cute but again, how many moms stay home with kids and then write hilarious blogs about it? Tons. None of them get on Talk of the Nation. Here is something Byrnes said that exemplifies why he pissed me off so much:
There are more than 150,000 stay-at-home dads these days, according to the 2010 Census, but Byrnes says there's more to it than that. "There are a lot of dads that kind of share the responsibility," he says. "I mean, I know at least two firemen [who] work their, you know, 24-hour shifts. They got a couple of days. You know, they trade off with the mom. So that's becoming more and more common where dads are, you know, manning up and taking care of the kids."
Manning up and taking care of the kids? Seriously? Men who work but also look after their own kids on their days off should somehow be praised for it? Oh my god.